“They won’t pay you what you’re worth, don’t do that.”
“Unless you did an amazing job, it won’t be sufficient enough.”
“You should have worked with my photographer.”
“Your dress should be more form fitting.”
“These photo’s look like mugshots, there is nothing in your eyes.”
“Going to LA will be a waste of time. You will be spinning your wheels.”
What do you do when you thought they were on your team…
For the sake of privacy let’s say the individual that made the above statement’s name is Nola. Shock 😯 doesn’t even begin to describe my emotions as I sat there listening to Nola literally spit on everything I have done up until November 2017. Now, Nola is someone who has been “cheering” for me since the beginning when I had NOTHING on my resume. Currently, I’m selecting the projects I want to list on my resume but to Nola that’s not good enough! I know what you’re thinking…probably the same thing I thought, “What in Sam Hill have you done for me?”🚫 Oh okay!
I have never been good with snarky replies when someone catches me off guard so I probably just stared at Nola like a deer in headlights. After that encounter I went to my car and sat… and sat… and sat…thinking, “Maybe I should take those off my resume.” “I am wasting my time.” “Nola is right, those photos are ugly.” My thoughts just kept going on and on. This was my first time ever dealing with someone being negative and discouraging me. I knew Negative Nancy’s would be out there but that moment you come face to face with a situation you thought you prepared for is so different in real time.
Eventually, I talk it through with my dad and his fist comment was, “Okay, everything you’re doing is wrong. What plan of action did Nola give you 📝.” The answer to that intuitive question was… well I had no response. Nola gave me nothing. Everything I have done was questioned and criticized with no alternate way to do better. While our conversation consisted of much more, that my friends… was the most important part! Criticize me, tell me my path isn’t the right one but provide me with a plan to help me improve. If you can’t do that than your criticism becomes negativity and ain’t nobody got time for that 🤫.
After that reality check I had a come to Jesus meeting with myself. I may not be doing everything perfectly, if there is such a thing, but at least I am doing something. Most people have dreams and goals but they sit and wait for something to miraculously come to them. Well I know 100% I’m working hard for whatever God has planned for me and please believe He will make up for whatever I’m lacking because He’s just that great! And while I wish I could’ve had some words for Nola during that conversation, it’s best I didn’t. Nola will be proven foolish, along with any other naysayers, with the success and blessings that are coming my way.
Never forget, “The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately.” Keep doing what you’re doing and let God handle the rest… THAT’S WHAT YOU DO!!!!!! ❤